She was emotionally distant from her family, had no close friends, no car, no driver's license, successions of part-time jobs but no career in the traditional sense, was separated from her husband who she didn't tell me about until 6 or 7 months into our relationship , couldn't go more than a few days without starting a raging argument, and was extremely disorganized. As I've read the last several posts in this discussion, I become concerned about some of the harsh judgements being made about people that the discussants don't really know. There's also the irony that sometimes the end product is not at all unique or special, but the experience of mood elevation may sufficiently alter self-perception such that the individual thinks he or she is producing something truly unique, specialized and even superior. A relationship with a psychopath affects every part of your life. Although some of the lies are of the regular type e. I realize now that what I felt was not love; it was all based on codependency. .
The developmental origins of a specific personality organization are not algorithmic. There is no clinical proof that bipolar disorder increases the frequency of lying, although people with the disorder, and their families, often report this tendency. First of all, please note that all people have different personality traits, and express them in different ways. Medication may be necessary to help level things out but it's not going to help you understand how the issues of mood and personality converge within one's psyche. However, according to , both of these types of people tell frequent untruths, but there are marked differences that pose different challenges for people around them. I realised this was a pattern of behaviour, if I was having any success in my life he made sure to spoil it with heavy arguments, lies and confusion. Other symptoms can sleep disturbances and some problems with thinking.
Now, 35 years later we are together and my life has deteriorated immensely from having a great spiritual life, a good job and a lonely, but settled life into being a wreck most of the time, crying all day and terrified of what he can do next against me in his passive aggressive cruel behaviour. Therefore, if you see someone constantly engaging in attention-seeking behaviors, he or she may also be lying to support this need. Maybe I am wrong, but among all of the few narcissists I know, there is no one who would take any risk unless he needs it to restore the impression he leaves. If you are spiritual, you know that God exists within you. One night she decided to go to a strip club with her friends.
However, it kills me when people start talking about pathology. However, I know that is just remnants of my own unresolved pain. Example: Every time Sheryl was late for work, she told a fantastic story trying to excuse her behavior. My point is that sometimes talking through difficult issues when neither of you are stressed or unhappy may be a more productive way of problem solving, negotiating and giving each other some constructive feedback. For example, an individual affected with this unfortunate disorder may lie when asked what his or her favorite food or drink is.
I think he sincerely believes he is reasonable and has his stuff together, I'm the needy screwed up wife. Apart from all this he doesn't help much in the house and leaves everything for me to deal with. They can also do allele tests that show people's levels of empathy. What are the symptoms of pathological or compulsive lying? In fact, a pathological liar may even tell lies that are self-incriminating. This combination of depressive and manic symptoms at the same time makes this form of bipolar high risk for suicide. Derek, with his wife Lisa, developed the original version of psychTracker then called A Mood Journal , after his diagnosis with Schizo-Affective Bipolar, when they could not find a system available that was robust enough to help him effectively manage his symptoms and accurately interpret his charting. You need to talk to her primary care doctor about what the family is experiencing.
You need to confront your friend and firmly explain you know she is telling you a story and your not going to listen to it anymore. I think compulsive lying is an illness but I'm not sure. Compulsive lying behavior can be treated, but a psychiatric professional is usually needed to determine if the lying behavior is symptomatic of an underlying mental illness, or simply a force of long-standing habit. The unfortunate consequence of the narcissistic style is that people generally like and appreciate individuals who can incorporate vulnerability into their persona. However, their lying behavior often leads to more pressure, stress and relationship problems that can ultimately make life harder for them. Addiction may fuel a tendency to lie. So I agree that pathologising personality disorders is a step too far.
What bugs me even more, when she is stable, she takes no responsibility or accountability for her actions! This denial can make treatment a challenge. This often involves elaborate stories of being falsely accused, constructing lie after lie with the intention of defending his or her supposed innocence. These treatments may also help with the issue of lies or perceived lies. During this time she continued to lie to her parents about the couch surfing. It is rare that we meet a fully candid individual.
But I live in Europe where Doctors appear to be slightly hesitant to come up with a final diagnosis. Within any grouping of people that represents an area of psychopathology we will see a wide range of functioning, motivation for change and prognosis for improvement. When they no longer serve the function of defense, the strengths and capacities are freed up because they are no longer tied to a compensatory agenda. Many people who lie compulsively suffer no verifiable mental illness. Sometimes, the person may tell a lie if they are in trouble, as people without the condition may also do.