Completely ignore her for week better yet dont speak to her until u start hooking up with another girl Trust me on this, with my personal experience, go no contact. She can hear it in your tonality. She's dealing with some serious shit in her head right now. One way to do it is to be consistent. Which is fair enough, there's no urgent hurry but now she's kind of ignoring me and talking to me like I don't really matter to her anymore. I would like to think its because my ex still cared for me or that she just didn't like being put in a position where she had to just between an old and new relationship.
Then went cold on him on purpose! But if you really do want to, I'd suggest you stop being so smothering. I genuinely feel sorry for her, and I always have. This is where understanding the reasons for a hot and cold ex come into play. Or maybe she just didn't want to let you borrow it anymore. Your ex girlfriend requires space in order to re-develop her feelings for you… and crowding her space with small talk, trying to be her available friend, or imposing yourself into her life will not attain your desired goal of getting her back.
I also ran into my ex at a party on Valentines day and other than giving her a little smile as I walked past her, I completely ignored her. However, when we were in our relationship there was no one else involved whatsoever. The week and even the day before she broke up with me, we were literally planning the year holidays, weekends away, visits , were having regular sex and she was still affectionate holding hands, cuddling on the sofa etc. What if she gets mad at you for the breakup and becomes cold towards you. She sent me the last text and I didn't text her back, not because I'm ignoring her nor because she does it to me.
You might get the urge to send desperate texts that beg for her back, apologize about mistakes you might have made. Look, time heals a lot of things. But lately the texting and communication have gotten mundane. Don't waste your time with people that don't have their chit together mentally. This one is me missing her every step I take.
If you cheated on your ex girlfriend and she found out that you cheated then she is going to be upset and will not get over it for quite some time. Anyways, all of these good memories are clashing with all the bad ones and confusing you. She'd come over we would hang out drinking beer and could talk to 3 am then smash for hours. I want to make one thing very clear. This is likely the same reason she is acting cold towards you right now. Visions of your girlfriend pop into your head and you get this horrible sinking feeling in your gut.
If you enjoying yourself then do it, if not then move on. Attraction doesn't work this way. Do you really think that 20 years later after it is all over that she is going to be over that? Oh, and how do you get her back if she is hot and cold? I started by playing carefree for almost a month. My guess is that she's confused and doesn't know what she wants and whenever I talk to her, she gets scared away but she's happy to talk to me when it suits her. I know you are curious what is her feeling for you, or want to know what is she thinking about. This is how most guys mess up their chance to. Have you made this mistake before? You have to find a way to downgrade her on your priority list while seeing your well being as a bigger priority.
Separate your needs from hers for a while. The break up came as a huge shock. I mean I guess I could be, but I don't get that feeling. I've done my best to just ride things out and let things happen naturally but strangely, my ex is blowing hot and cold and I'm a little bit unsure as to how to handle the situation and I'm a tad confused by her words and actions. But does it mean she's attracted to you? When she isn't with you for a period of time, she misses you, as you do her, but some days she doesn't want to see you, sometimes she remembers why she doesn't want to be with you, and realizes she would rather be with someone else. Of course, some women are a bit more stubborn and cold and tough compared to others.
Take the bull by the horns folks. If you're sick of the roller coaster ride, then you need to do something about it instead of accepting it, otherwise the situation will stay the same. The best way to overcome the hot and cold treatment is to take all the reasons I gave above and combat all of them in some way so that your ex girlfriend has really no motivation to continue giving you the treatment. Dan is married to the woman of his dreams and has been helping men succeed with women for more than 14 years. You don't want to think about it, yet its all you can think of.
She's being hesitant and cautious. She wants me one day, coming to my house apologizing for her in and out, the next she's silent so am I. I am ready for a real relationship and want to work through issues. The trick to it is figuring out exactly what you need to do to create the scab. This leads me to my next point.