My ex left me with two sons after about a year he started to resurface saying he left because he thought it would make me miss him. Showing him that you can still be happy in your life with or without him, he is not your happiness because you create your happiness. Have you worked on your marriage? I understand that you may really believe you love him, but your self-worth has been broken, therefore, you may think you will never have healthier or better relationships. I am more than content in the knowledge that he is happy with this other girl, he loves her clearly and I have moved on. I broke it off and am hoping time apart can mend all the damage in time and maybe we can get back together in the future when we've both grown individually. After sayingnthat he switched the phone off in my ears. So, I made my choice by detaching.
I ended up seeing the guy I left, the one I took his card and yes we slept together. My exwife from 14 years ago contacted me recently and one of the main obstactes was that we were very young and from two slightly different culters and the respective family members didn't get along. I have never cleared an office so fast! I think that it is really important to focus on yourself, particularly as you have exams and such coming up. . I pray that the decision we make is right because one way or another we will be together. I support him, because I want him to be happy, but… I feel so selfish. I accepted and a few hours later, she de friended me.
I have looked to find my first love through the years trying to find out what happend to him, his life; if he was married, children. We both do have happy loving families… we both just have these feelings that sadly him and I will take to our grave. I didn't contact him after that and he messaged two days later about it. I think about him every single day, I love him just like I did to begin with. I still feel like such a fool today. After all the abuse emotional and physical I ended up taking the twins and myself back to my parents. My ex and I were and are the love of each others lives and still love each other.
Although we stayed in touch, we, and others, could still feel the deep connection between us. A female reader, , writes 2 January 2011 : To make a very long story short! Both of us seemed to be very serious. Its easy to say to break all contacts with your friend, and I would love to do that in my situation too, but I know how difficult it is. He was mostly upset that he felt he lost his best friend. I love my husband very much and my life is his to keep.
However, the love was, and always has been stronger than imagined! Back to the subject at hand: the answer to this question is this: No I would never contact this man for any reason. Out of the blue a man from when I was 17 contacted me and wants to rekindle a friendship I think. But I have never had a deep spiritual or emotional connection with him they way I do my former best friend. And then they are pulled back together only to be ripped apart again and again, and again. Being with him makes me feel comfortable, happy, loved, and gives me chills at the same time. Almost always, the chances are slim and almost nonexistent.
They met for coffee and the love rekindle he told me. A female reader, anonymous, writes 17 August 2007 : Dear Still in love: I am in the same situation, the only difference is I am not in new relationship, but my ex and I still have something. I made this mistake and now, 3 years later nothings changed. We have to keep in mind that life is bigger than ourselves, even than our love for another, even if that love is mutual. He also tells me that he might want me back after a while.
My answer is to let things be. I tried to date other people to replace him. Sometimes I just wish I become numb. It also seems to me that whenever I get a boyfriend he gets a girlfriend and I dated my other ex and he dated his ex girlfriend. This is a continuous process and it finally officially ended not too long ago. He actually turned out to be horrible. I feel like I have nl purpose in life…please Help Brake all contact with him for about 30 days.
I asked him to sort out this topic n I wanted to talk with him, but he always tries to ignore the topic. I've gotten help from my therapist about this issue and I know it's not justifiable to search my questions online and take a quiz or read an article about it. We have been dating long distance from the jump, and recently he had some health issues. I hinted that I know but they are oblivious. So hopefully this 30 day thing actually works.
He is in love with a memory and you are in love with a fantasy, if this is real love then it will survive, it will endure. We maintained no contact for about a week and then he came by the house two days in a row and stayed one night-even though he slept on the couch. The guy made it fairly plain that he did not want any sort of committed or long term thing, but of course I was smitten and hoped he would eventually be, too. Three years later, I added him on Facebook again because I realized that he was once a very important part of my life and until now I'm still really glad that I met him. Good luck and much sympathy and empathy. So my responses are cordial, but short.